You may have heard people say: “Don’t have kids unless you’re ready to be tied down. You’ll never be able to go anywhere anymore. Your whole life will change.” But I want to speak something else into your heart. I want to change that narrative.
Yes, your whole life will change.
After becoming a mom, you may feel like your identity has changed. That you’re no longer who you once were. And yes, being a mom will not only change your life, but it will also change who you are as a person. But maybe that doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
Maybe being a mom is the very thing you were created to be. Could it be possible that the very best version of yourself is you as a mother?
Don’t get me wrong, motherhood can be overwhelming, messy, and challenging, but it’s also so rewarding, beautiful, and worth it.
You were chosen to be this tiny baby’s everything. The very person they need to sustain them. The person they look up to with eyes full of trustworthiness, even when you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing.
It can be challenging at times to navigate motherhood. You’re learning all about a new tiny person— what they like/dislike, and what each of their cries mean. It can be overwhelming trying to learn it all, and just when you think you have it figured out, it could change. And while all this is happening, you’re also learning yourself and who you are as a mom. It can be a lot.
But please, if I can tell you anything: Give yourself grace. Motherhood is a journey, and each stage of the journey comes with its challenges and rewards.
You don’t have to have it all figured out to be doing something right. Take a moment and just watch how your baby looks at you. To them, you’re doing everything right. They know you love them. That is what matters.
Soak it in. Breathe. Embrace the incredible feeling of motherhood. Embrace your new identity as a mom while also discovering who you are becoming.