In a world where it seems like everyone is focused on themselves and chasing success, I would like to offer you another perspective.
Before my daughter was born, I read several books, listened to multiple podcasts, & watched countless videos. I thought I was as prepared as I could be, and yet nothing could have prepared me for the overwhelming love I would experience the moment my baby was born.
I’ll never forget the feeling of pure joy as they laid my baby girl on my chest, and yet the other feelings that shortly followed as they said they needed to cut her umbilical cord early because something was wrong. Every now and then, I go back and watch the video from the moment she was born. I see the excitement in my eyes because the moment I had been waiting 9 months for was finally here. Yet, seconds later, you can see in my eyes that I know something isn’t right. I start to feel dizzy, and the room begins to spin.
In the moment, I wasn’t worried that something was wrong with me; I was afraid that something was wrong with my daughter. I looked down at the tiny blessing in my arms and asked, “Baby, are you okay?“
I see now what a blessing in disguise that was.
When asked if I needed pain medicine, I declined. I wasn’t thinking about the pain. I couldn’t stop staring at my precious baby girl. For almost an hour as they worked on me, I just stared down at her—distracting myself from what they were doing.
They tell me that when they wheeled me out of the room to go to the OR, I said I wouldn’t leave unless my husband got to do skin-to-skin with her. I wasn’t afraid I wasn’t going to make it, I was only concerned about my daughter not having what she needed.
There’s a special kind of selfless, instinctive love that fills a mother’s heart the moment her baby is born — and unless you’ve experienced it yourself, it’s almost impossible to fully understand.
Motherhood changes you. Becoming a mother strips away those selfish feelings, and suddenly your baby is everything to you, and what a precious gift that is.
Maybe you’re reading this and you’re feeling scared, overwhelmed, or uncertain if becoming a mother is right for you. Maybe you’re considering the abortion pill, and you’re being told that’s the quickest & easiest decision— I understand how heavy that decision must feel.
But can I gently urge you to please look deeper? Do your research. Know what it really is—what it really does. The side effects, the potential trauma it could bring to your life. You may discover that it’s not just a quick fix like you’re being told.
Your baby doesn’t expect or even need perfection. Your baby doesn’t need you to have the best nursery, or the most expensive diapers.
They just need you.
When you say no to taking the abortion pill—and yes to life—you’re already giving them everything they need. You’re choosing to be brave. You’re choosing them. And that choice? That is so much more than enough.
You are more than enough. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
The second your tiny baby looks up into your eyes, you’ll be overwhelmed with gratitude that you didn’t let all the doubts hold you back from experiencing this moment.
I can’t promise every moment will be easy, but when the struggles come— remember that moment. To your baby, you’re everything to them. Your baby loves you because of who you are, not because of what you can do for them.
The gift of life is so precious, and the love of a mother is a priceless thing.